When a breakdown occurs in your life, is there a deeper meaning? I believe there is. If you look hard enough, there is always a lesson for the soul.
Last night, I took a spill. About 6 months ago, our building's repair man put a temporary patch on our steps, telling us he'd be back shortly to fix it permanently. He replaced our rotten wooden planks with reused laminated fiberboard, from some discarded IKEA furniture he found on the street, which as you may imagine can be really slippery in the rain. He never came back to fix it. I mentioned it to him a couple times, and after receiving no response, I gave up, resigning myself, my fiancee and our guests with a warning to just be careful.
So there I went marching outside in the rain with a large load of laundry between my arms. Usually, just the sight of the white laminate is my reminder to approach it carefully and hold the railing. However, I didn't see the laminate over my laundry, took one step onto it which had about a 1/8" of standing water on it, and BOOM, down goes Frazier.
After the shock wore off, the second voice to speak was my Image Consultant. He was like, you're such a bad ass. Good thing you're in shape, that your back, arms and shoulders are so strong that wood is no match for your 235 lbs. frame forged from yoga, high-intensity interval training and pumping iron. I posted a shameless humble brag pic on Facebook inferring as much.
This morning, while I sat on the porch, taking in a the cold, damp, Berkeley mist and reading David Whyte, the immortal words of Landmark, and frequently uttered phrase in my house, came through, "Without integrity, nothing works."
Without integrity, nothing works. As I was trained, whenever there is a breakdown, I have two options,
This is where the purpose of falling down is revealed.
I now get the opportunity to look at where else in my life is integrity out, and it always is. That is just a condition of being human - we're always committed to ideas, values, virtues and outcomes that are larger than our present condition. As such the integrity of my life is always being restored. Being someone committed to leadership, to creating a planet on purpose, to living my purpose, exploring my integrity is not a invitation to unleash my inner Critic and beat myself up, but rather an invitation to live my purpose more fully by looking at every other place in my life where my integrity is out. Here's what I found by doing a quick scan of the key areas of my life, to see where I was out of alignment with my purpose:
It a lifelong process, of course, but this is what is required to have my life work, to have a life that is a progressively larger reflection of my soul's purpose. This also why embodiment and integration are such a large piece of the purpose process, and why I spend 50% of my time with my 1-on-1 clients and in my courses on embodiment. Each key area has to be a match, or else finding purpose is just another leisure activity and not a transformation fulfilled.
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